Be selfish before you're generous
This sounds incredibly cold, dismissive, and counterintuitive if you take it at face value. Instead, the point is that in order to truly help and care for others, you have to be at your best—otherwise you’ll quickly drain yourself and be of no use to anyone. What you’re selfish about depends on your situation; it could be your time, how you spend your money, or the people you associate with. If your health is fucked up, your mind isn’t right, your money isn’t right, or any other facet of your life that you deem important isn’t right: it’s your responsibility to take the time to correct those things before you give yourself (and your time) to others.